Cyber Stalkers

CYBER STALKERS.....

I wish I could choose my fans....I am no stranger to stalkers, unfortunately. It probably comes with "freak magnet" territory...although, I am blessed--because I have not had a scary one in years! I did learn something new today....you can actually see the people that look at your profile on the dating website. This probably means that I need to quit pulling up photos of the crazy people/hot people that are trying to contact me and showing a variety of girls? Perhaps this is why some of these guys think I am interested when I am not! They saw that I looked at their profile 6 times...when really I was just showing all my friends the crazy man with braids and an eye patch....hmmm....I must stop doing that then. :)

I have now had a plethora of potential mates. They are emailing, poking, peeking & gawking in swarms. It's a little overwhelming which ones to look at. Now that I know about the "viewed me" section, I am definitely noticing that I have some regular visitors. Which is weird....because I don't think this many guys have made it their life's mission to show a group of men some comical photos of me...I would believe it if it has to do with some of these cleavage pics I posted of myself. Those suckers cannot be hidden....there isn't much I can do there....plus, I don't think anyone will find that unattractive that I have boobs-so I'm not worrying about it. Stalker central over there in the viewed me section.....this one asian guy in the blonde rapunzel wig who lives in california(why he is viewing me in the first place I do not know because I live in Houston and said within 10 miles???)....he is really starting to creep me out. It's disturbing to think I might be a source of masterbation for some pervs....because truly, that is where my mind is going. Hopefully, I will not meet anyone into freaky sexual things-like child pornography....I hope not!

So I actually went out with one....a guy I know from highschool. I made out with him once when I was 15 and innocent....I was definitely getting the "warning signs" vibe(since he has not offered to take me out anywhere but keeps pushing for me to "come over")...you can shoot me, cause I went over. It's not like I didn't know him??? Dumb I know....but I told you I was impulsive, plus I've been oh so bored when it comes to men. Someone new to entertain me would be great!

So....he told me his dream is to have land with a pond out in the country....eeeeehhhh. I am so tired of dating these barney's-that is the opposite of my dream. He said he was tired of living in the city--and I told him he lived in the suburbs?! THIS IS NOT THE CITY? He said he might me too country for me(as I noticed the cowboy boots in the corner)...uh, yes I think so, I am not into country. We sat there, barely spoke and I had to stare at a baseball game....he said he watches baseball everyday after work, he can't afford to do anything else after his divorce-his bills went way up and he was lucky, because baseball comes on 175 days a year! Well...lucky for him. That sounds like my worst nightmare....could I have met a person anymore boring than this? I'd rather him be crazy than boring....because I already get bored easy! Too much "fiery aries" for this guy is actually true....there is absolutely no way. I hope the next person I go out with is not a snooze fest like this one....hopefully not a cyber stalker either!

Don't Just Look at the Pictures

DON'T JUST LOOK AT THE PICTURES

I AM BEGINNING TO THINK HALF OF THESE GUYS DO NOT READ MY PROFILE.......
Ok...when you set up your profile, you basically take this painstakingly long survey of yourself. You all have read what I put, I was very detailed about it....I think my personality was conveyed appropriately. To add to that, you have to put on there: what ethnicity you like, height, religion, political interests, weight, kid preference, etc....my main concern falls under children, age and race.

Last time I checked, caucasian means WHITE.... I put that I was interested in 'caucasian' and 'latino' under my race preferences. There is not a racist bone in my body, but I am attracted to what I am attracted to...please tell me why I am getting emails from every race under the sun telling me love comes in unexpected packages?? No shit, but I still am not attracted to you at the end of the day! Of course I would never say that....but the gaul some people have is just unbelievable. I had a 47-year-old African man who got beat with the ugly stick emailing me a small novel about our future together....he ended it with a warning not to "tempt" him unless I wanted to "follow through with that" hahahahahahhaaha......???????????

The latino thing cracks me up too...I can't blame people for trying-they can't read my mind. I mainly date white men....but sometimes I like someone of latino/mexican descent. They are generally on the preppy side though. These guys messaging me look like they have a grill and a teardrop tattooed on their neck...I am not into HOOD. I do understand a little spanish, I know enough to communicate. Some of these men are messaging me spanish love letters and I have no idea what they are saying! I also do not know any slang so it might as well be in Swaheli when I'm getting some kind of south american slang....I'll tell you what I am not into at all, a single father 3 that looks like he has blankets hanging as curtains in the background of his deuce sign, hat slanted bathroom pic self-portrait. That goes for any race.

Another sassygirl dating past noteworthy comment:  
I have a history of dating men that are too old for me...though it has gotten better in the last few years.
One thing that having a near-death experience will do for you is: make you really get focused on what you want. I tend to be an impulsive person and not really think things through, which in dating world means: getting involved with men that do not want the same things as me in the long run.
When I was younger, this was not such a big deal-because all you had was time. I never intended to get serious about anyone, but you live and you learn-in this case, you learn that you can't help how you feel. The moral of this story is, do not get involved with someone you don't see a future with. My grandpa gave me some advice very young and I live by that: DO NOT THINK YOU WILL CHANGE A MAN, BECAUSE YOU WON'T. YOU BETTER LOVE HIM HOW HE IS, OR DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME.

So I've really FOCUSED the past two years....I really want someone that is closer in age and wants a family(or is at least open to the idea) because I shouldn't waste my time with people who don't want the same things I do. So it definitely gets frustrating for me when I am getting emails from men showing interest...and it clearly says on their profile that they do not want kids. Or they are 47??? I put that I am interested in ages 29-40, because I think that is reasonable. But I really would rather have someone around 35 at the most...I'm open to older... if it's there,then it's there-you know? These grandpa's must be living in a dream world. I am most definitely not looking for a sugar daddy. I bleed independence. This man who was 41--well, he looked 51 and was all red-faced....he looked a lot like William H. Macy(who is about as hot as an ice cube).  He told me, " Did I sense any carnal raw connection here...because he didn't want to waste my time. He would get witty and clever when I replied."



Countdown to a Love Match

Countdown To A Love Match

The countdown is on..... what has it been, 5 days? My friend Cyndi says she has a friend on a dating website and she is attached to the app on her phone every second of the day....the one she is on is free, and the one I am on costs money. We have decided you get what you pay for.... because the guys I am coming across all do well for themselves. Cyndi says these guys her friend is going out with don't have jobs and look like they don't bathe...a bunch of dead beat dads, etc....At least, the impression I am getting is that these are local business professionals(a lot of them single dads) that are just too busy to meet anyone. I am at that age where I am right there with them...all of my friends are married or starting families now....which I love, but I am spending a lot of my time hanging out with married friends....and I am no philanderer! I am looking to meet an available SINGLE guy, remember?

 I have a lot of experience dating men with children, so a single dad is fine by me-I get attached to children very easily, which I am aware is not a quality most women possess. I chalk that up to being a product of a divorced family-I experienced the evil step-parent thing....it made me highly sensitive to kids and I have always worked with them in some shape or form my entire life. Everyone laughs at me, but I always say that my ideal situation is to get with someone who already has two kids and then we can have two more and voila! INSTANT LARGE FAMILY! But I am serious?!

 I am at the age where I am over the bar scene....it's different when you get older. It was cool to meet guys at clubs when that's where everyone went back in the day. Now, most of the men you meet in a bar are womanizers and drunks(or worse) and I do not want anymore of those experiences...I took a serious risk here, laying it all out there with unapologetic abandon....that "sugar and spice" comment I used describing myself has landed me a few horny messages:

"Fundip4u" wrote to me: "Hey there my lil fiery spicy aries....u want a real man to teach you what to do?! ouch! let me show you my fire baby!"

....fundip4u also had "licking things" listed under hobbies...a beer bellied single father of 3 I might add-no thank you!

"Mr.KenDiesel"  wrote to me: "You're body is slammin' sexy girl....jus' sayin!" 

...mr.kendiesel had these deeply disturbing steroid-infused  popeye arms and shoulders and the rest of him was a little flabby and looked like it belonged to a completely different person. He also posted fatty pics of his half-naked body before the steroids--I guess to show how much better he looks?! And he wrote in his bio that people think he is conceited and yes he does in fact love hisself??? This guy did not get a response...and I have a feeling that is what he was fishing for with this comment. What a creeper!

"TejanoTim" wrote to me: "Damn girl....you are hot! I must go out with you!"

then he messaged me again and wrote:

"fine, have it your way, your loss!"

then wrote me again:

"I see you have been checking me out....whats up? lets go out?"

I finally had to block him...this was only within like a 2 day span...I had never said anything to him at all!

I am sure these people fib a little bit. There is no way that every guy I am coming across makes $100,000-$150,000 /yr and works out 6-7 days a week. No way in hell every single one of these guys is "athletic and toned." I am more athletic and toned than some of these people on here, and I am not listing that under my description until I see lines in my arms and abs again...man boobs do not count as muscles. I can tell by their pictures.....I put that I don't mind "a few extra pounds," because I don't. I have dated plenty of guys with less than perfect bodies, it's not important to me if I am into someone. But, a few extra pounds is just what it sounds like.... A FEW EXTRA POUNDS. Wouldn't you say that falls in the 10-15 pounds category? I have been "poked" by so many men with 3 chins...it's not even funny. This one man looked like he weighed about a comfortable 300 lbs and had a sweater wrapped around his layers of chinfat in his profile picture...WTH dude, really? I guess people grasp at straws....if I was into morbidly obese men, I would've said so....of course that wasn't a choice...but I am a reasonable person, I'm thinking-they must know I am not going on a date with them, right? So far, I am at 48 "pokes" and 4 emails....there is potential here, and certainly plenty of writing material for this blog!!

Dating Profile Complete

ONLINE DATING PROFILE=COMPLETE

HERE IS WHAT I POSTED UNDER MY DESCRIPTION:

I am definitely true 2 my aries fire sign. I was once described as "all sugar & all spice." I think its safe to say that is an accurate description. I am very impulsive, curious, free-spirited; I'm an outside the box kind of person...never a dull moment; I  am always happy, charismatic, smiling, bubbly and an eternal optimist (a glass half-full kind of person.) I seldom lose my cool, don't take my self too seriously, and am very direct. If something is bothering me, I will say so-not really into the combative thing....unless it is a friendly debate!

I am a huge fan of witty banter and clever retorts. I definitely have a big personality and do not know how to use my inside voice.    I'm an individual with high energy whose very passionate about life and I can be serious (I'm not always cracking jokes!) when discussing an impassioned topic. I like colorful people-something entertaining is always going on with me and I'm usually cracking up.  It is safe 2 say I am liberal and open-minded in all aspects of life. I am not limited to one skill, I am a jack of all trades;  I truly just love to learn. I am very into alternative health and am all about the energy and the vibes... I used to be an athlete(a dancer/teacher), I'm still a writer....I'm a very driven, career-focused individual....fiercely independent..... who dabbles in things creative and artistic when I can find the time. I am definitely a workaholic which is the main reason I find myself here!  
                                                     
If I had to pick a religion-it would be football. If you want to get technical about religion: i'm very into spirituality-gnosticism, new age philosophy and quantum physics. My favorite thing on earth is karaoke...closely followed by "misfit people watching in a random dive bar" and bad movies.         
                                                                                                                                             
As far as a partner goes, it really is all about that carnal raw connection. You just click with someone when they are right. I'm looking for:  passion, intensity, a comedian, a driven, decisive, family-oriented, self-aware, self-sufficient individual who has a personality big enough to match mine....someone who can hold their own-I don't want a doormat or a wallflower. I like someone who speaks up for what they are about and doesn't just agree with everything. Make me laugh and give me an outlet for intelligent thought and I am yours. Must love children and dogs.  Definitely looking for a fun person...and a lover, not a fighter!       
                 
I feel the need to say..... I am not very physically active right now because I am pretty limited when it comes to physically demanding activities. I was in a very serious accident a few years ago and it will be awhile before I am capable of much requiring hard use of my right foot. I try to push myself...I am about to undertake the insanity workout...probably a crazy move, but this is the same person that free-climbed a steep, rocky hill  in flipflops to get to a beach when she couldn't even walk lol....I did crawl quite a bit, but I got there. Carpe diem, right? :)



Obviously I am a different sort of person...I will be myself without abandon, if they don't like me, then so be it-i will not tone it down, this is who I am-it's decided. For the purposes of keeping things anonymous...i will change names-so if you see something in parenthesis, that is my attempt at a clever synonym...I'm already getting views and I have a few "pokes" haha...i will update when I have further information.

Welcome to the world of online dating

Life is busy. I'm sure there are plenty of people who share the same sentiment....my life passed me by so quickly that I realized the soon approaching month of October would make it an entire year since I have dated anyone?! My name is sassygirl, I am obviously a female, and I am 29 years old....no kids, no commitments, just a single white female. It is time to get serious about a relationship if I don't plan on being like George Clooney. I don't think it's quite as sexy when you are an old bachelorette...and I would like to rear some children in years besides the golden ones.

I have done some reflecting lately....I have a serious problem and it is called MEN. I am soon approaching the big 30 and I have yet to be in a real, serious, committed, drama-free relationship. I rarely show interest in anyone....and when I do, he usually fits in one of these categories or ALL of them: A PLAYER, STILL HUNG UP ON AN EX, COMPLETELY EMOTIONALLY DAMAGED/UNAVAILABLE. I have a real knack for liking the ones I can't have and I've really got to change this. So I have decided to get serious about my quest for a healthy, loving relationship. One with maturity and endurance haha....3 months is usually my breaking point and according to everyone else, that is not a long time. :)


Online dating-here I come! I am a real freak magnet so I am sure this will make for some entertaining writing to everyone out there...i'm going to chronicle the quest of an online dating virgin and all that ensues from this experience...if I am lucky, I will find someone that will change the sarcastic tone of my writing...and I will have to start a new blog, but knowing myself-it isn't likely. NEVER A DULL MOMENT....here in sassygirl-world. I am approaching this with an optimistic attitude...it's a good start when I am able to at least approach men that WANT a relationship, which I think is the right direction to be going in....certainly a good start, right?

MISSION: SET-UP AN ONLINE DATING PROFILE